Recently I was approached by a young woman after a talk, requesting we met so I could give her some advice. In fact, I suspect she didn’t actually want advice, so much as reassurance that what she had in mind to do was sensible and likely to achieve her aims. Mentoring comes in many forms, from long term over years – during which the relationship may change to be much more that of equals, each finding the other a helpful, objective voice – to a single meeting at a critical juncture. There is also the not unrelated but distinct persona of sponsor that may be valuable at different stages, someone who puts you forward for a prize or a promotion, often without even telling you they’ve done so.
I have been fortunate in having some great mentors in my life, some of whom I’ve written about on these pages, even if sadly at a point when they have just died (Ed Kramer and Sam Edwards in particular), but other people in the field have supported me at different times in ways for which I’m permanently grateful. But here I want to celebrate someone whose name I don’t know, perhaps never did, and whom I only met once, but who shared wise words with me at a critical point in my career.
I met this woman by chance, when travelling from Ithaca (where I was a postdoc at Cornell University) to New York City to visit my husband, who was living in Manhattan at the time, working at the Rockefeller Institute. It’s about a 5-hour journey by Greyhound bus, and we were sitting next to each other. For whatever reason we started talking, although I’m not a great one for engaging in conversation with strangers, particularly if you are trapped next to each for several hours. It turned out she was an academic from nearby Ithaca College, not, I think, a scientist, but established in her career unlike me.
The critical juncture I was facing at this particular point was that I was about to apply for a faculty position in my department (Materials Science and Engineering) at Cornell. Nothing unusual there for a postdoc to try to secure a permanent, or at least tenure-track, position. However, by this point I was in my third year as a postdoc in the department, and my first two had been an unmitigated disaster. I had not enjoyed the project, not put any substantial effort into it, my experiments had not gone well and the relationship with my then supervisor had remained civil but was hardly cordial. An unsurprising response, given how unsuccessful I had been. At that point, at the end of two years of dreary unenthusiastic toil, no one would have thought for a second a tenure-track position might be on the horizon.
But…things had changed for me essentially instantaneously when I switched from grain boundaries in metallic bicrystals (the topic of my first postdoc) to working with Ed Kramer on the failure of polymers. Suddenly, I came alive. Whether this was for the stereotypical reason that as a woman I couldn’t think in three dimensions in the way studying the join between two misoriented crystals required, but for whatever reason amorphous polymers engaged me in a way my previous project never had. Perhaps it was simply that I was fed up with being fed up and threw myself into the new project with renewed enthusiasm. Certainly Ed was a very different kind of person from my first supervisor (Steve Sass), with whom it was apparent there was some kind of rivalry within the department, both being much of an age and seniority.
Be that as it may, for whatever reason, my first year working on polymers was a total transformation so that, by the start of my second year, I had become a plausible candidate for a faculty position. But, my problem was, how did I make a case I was a good choice when the whole department (I assumed, though possibly inaccurately) would know of my utter failure during those first two years, even if I was now transformed into an industrious and successful postdoc with Ed?
What this amazingly kind woman did for me on the bus, was to reassure me that if she were on an appointments committee, she would not simply rule me out for my two wasted years. That I had to own my failure and explain why things were different now. Over the course of those five hours trapped next to each other, she must have explored a lot of options with me, as well as discussed wider academic life. Her advice: that I should write a clear statement stating my position and owning the mistakes of the first two years at Cornell. She provided me with a framework to make my previous failure seem more explicable to the faculty, however ‘unfortunate’, and to make a case for why I was worth taking a punt on now. The details of that advice are long since lost to me, but I got off that bus feeling far more excited and positive than I had got on it. I turned up in New York feeling confident that I could write a covering letter which dealt with my lost two years in some plausible way.
This all happened nearly half a century ago (!), but the kindness and wisdom of this woman remains with me as someone who, in passing, made a big difference to me. I know that when thinking about mentoring, it is the long-term relationship that people tend to think about. But I am also aware that single conversations can be amazingly effective at some crucial moment. Individuals have told me how, some conversation with me made in passing, made such a (positive) difference to them, and it is always heartening to know that, even if I barely recall the interaction. One doesn’t always know that someone is going to take a casual comment to heart, and it is also quite possible they may have some much more unfortunate and unintended consequence which one probably never hears about. Words matter, however carelessly they may be tossed out. Being kind to people when they’re feeling vulnerable is always important.





